Friday, 11 November 2022

12 Biblical Principles On Which To Build A Business




Business leaders often wonder where they can find the best business advice and counsel in order to build their business. Although good business counsel can be found in a plethora of books, there is only one book that contains all of the best business secrets that business leaders need to know to build a successful business and life. That sacred book is the Bible. I have studied the Bible for years and have often read the words for encouragement, consolation, improvement, and inspiration. I have also found that it contains the best principles to build a successful business. The following principles will help any leader grow their business and kingdom impact so they will be able to hear the words "Well Done" both in this life and the next.


Principle #1 - Always Take The Second Step

Go a little further. Always do more than anticipated and expected. Surprise others by paying attention to the little things that others don't. Be different.

A principle that is helpful in building a life and building a business is the principle of going the second mile. Good companies develop a second-mile mentality. Jesus himself gives this principle in Matthew 5:41. The New Century Version records the statement as, "If someone forces you to go with him one mile, go with him two miles." Jesus gives this principle to his followers as a way for them to separate themselves from the culture in which they were living to help others to see Him more clearly. In business, we also need to separate ourselves so that others can see our business more clearly. Too many companies expect second-mile results without giving second-mile effort. It is always a good idea to do more than expected. Every company would be wise to cultivate a second-mile mentality throughout their business.

Too many businesses expect second-mile results without giving second-mile effort.


Principle #2 - The Golden Rule Works If You Work It.

Make People First Things. Think of others first. Treat others like you want to be treated. Practice thoughtfulness. When you think of the customers, they will think of you.

A helpful Biblical Principle on which to build a business is found in Luke 6:31. This verse, which is known as the Golden Rule, states that we should "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Many great businesses use this principle as the foundation for their business. J.C. Penny used just this one principle to start and grow his business into a thriving corporation. He once was quoted as having said, "I cannot remember a time when the Golden Rule was not my motto and precept, the torch that guided my footsteps." The concept is to consider others first. The wise business leader and business will always treat others as they would like to be treated.

Companies that don't think of their customers will not be thought of by their customers.


Principle #3 - Focus on Profit With a Purpose

Know your priorities. Live life and run your business with purpose and vision. Profit is powerful. Profit used well can lead to both success and significance. Attract others to your Mission and your Dream. Always Explain your Why.

Every successful business creates profits. It is often quoted in business circles that you don't have a business until you have a profit. Every company has been established and designed to create a profit. However, Christian leaders understand that the wrong profit can be damaging. A biblical principle that Christian leaders must follow is to build businesses that have a profit with a purpose. Jesus asked his followers in Mark 8:36 "What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?" This verse teaches a powerful principle that every Christian leader should follow.

Profit is Good, Profit Used for Good is Better


Principle #4 - Know Your Yeses and Your Nos.

Be decisive and make great decisions. Make decisions based on values. Know You "No's." Say Yes to those things that will make you and organization better. Live up to your Word. Make your signature mean something. Fulfill your commitments.

Great Decisiveness is a key to influential leadership. People cannot follow a person that does not know where they are going or why they are going in the direction that they are going. Jesus gives a secret to leaders when in Matthew 5:36, 37 he states "And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. 37 All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one." The power to say yes or no quickly means that you know where you are going and what you are trying to accomplish. Make your words mean something. Develop and build trust relationships by conveying to others that they can count on you and your commitments. Many leaders lose their influence with others because they commit to aspirational yeses. Leaders must know their "no's" and be quick to say yes or no.

Know Your No's because your no's make all the difference.


Principle #5 - Make the Move From Owner to Overseer

Practice steward leadership. Use the resources wisely. Remember that God’s owns it all and He will reward those that use his resources to their maximum capability. Be ready to give an answer for all of your decisions. Seek to hear the words "well done."

An essential shift for Christian business owners is moving from ownership to stewardship. Jesus told a story in Matthew about a faithful servant. He ends the story in Matthew 25:23 with these words, "His master replied, 'Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness!'" Well Done, those two words are two of the most powerful words in the English language. It should be the desire of every Christian business owner to hear these words at the end of their journey.

Well Done, those two words are two of the most powerful words in the English language.


Principle #6 - Trust the Law of Sowing and Reaping

Sow bountifully. Be generous with your seeds. Plant daily. Be constantly trying new things. Don't be afraid to start small. Practice patience.

Laws of life can be trusted because they have been proven through time. Successful businesses know and trust the law of sowing and reaping. In 2 Corinthians 9:6 the Bible states that "the point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully." The New Living Translation of the Bible records this principle with these words. "Remember this - a farmer who plants only a few seeds will get a small crop. But the one who plants generously will get a generous crop." Don't be afraid of starting with a small seed. The harvest you are reaping today is from the seeds that you planted yesterday. Another part of the Bible reminds the readers that we will reap what we sow. therefore sow bountifully and be on a constant lookout to reap your harvest.

The harvest you reaping today is from the seeds that you planted yesterday.


Principle #7 - Believe and Ask for the Impossible.

Dream Big Impossible Dreams. Set big spiritual goals. Stretch yourself and your team. Find new ways to look at old problems. Embrace belief. Pray big prayers and expect bigger answers.

Everything great starts with a dream. The world is better when people dream big and believe that impossible things can happen. Challenge yourself to ask "what if" questions and use your imagination to see the world in new and different ways. People desires to be with leaders and organizations who have big visions. Ephesians 3:20,21 states, "20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen." God wants to do things that amaze you. Dream big and ask God to do more than you ask or dream. A big vision inspires and attracts. Supersize your thoughts and your beliefs.

What seems impossible with man, is possible with God.



Principle #8 - Build To The 4th Generation

Work on big 7 year projects. Always do the right thing. Know your core values and beliefs. Be forward thinking. Make decisions with tomorrow in mind. Prepare for the future by making the right decision today. Know your foundation.

Don't waste time building things that won't last the test of time. Building on the right foundation will help your business stand through the storms of market changes. A key to building a great business is to act with integrity in all situations. Integrity means doing the right thing in all situations at all times. Martin Luther King Jr. taught that "The time is always right to do what is right." He might have taken his inspiration from the words of Proverbs 4:25-27 where the Bible teaches, "Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. 26 Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. 27 Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil." Businesses that are built on a solid foundation are built to last generations. Companies that lack a solid foundation are built on slippery ground that can crumble at any time. 

Our destiny unfolds in the future but it is shaped by the decisions that we make today.


Principle #9 - Know the Order of Things and Work the Order.

Strive for clarity. Seek first the principles of God and His kingdom. Know your priorities. Practice the art of first fruits in all aspects of your life and leadership.

Order is important. When a leader understands the order of things, things become easier to understand. In Matthew 6:33 Jesus gave his followers a powerful principle to follow. Jesus said, "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." The first three words of this verse are very instructive. Those words are "but seek first." A great principle to practice in business is to focus on first things. When a leader understands the order of things, things can become easier to understand. A leader must be clear and push for clarity in all things. Make God and His principles your top priority. Trust His order and seek first His kingdom.

When a leader understands the order of things, things become easier to understand. 


Principle #10 - Improve Your Team To Improve Your Organization

Find the right and best people to bring around you. Make people your top priority. Learn from everyone. Spend time with a wise team of mentors. Learn faster by learning from others. Ask questions and listen. Seek counsel. Help people to discover their gifts and talents. Find passionate and reliable people.

Great leaders learn from others to learn faster. You need a team around you to inspire you and help you build something bigger than you can build alone. No great leader ever led alone. Find your passion and add passionate people to your team. A passionate person is worth four regular people. Passionate people perform better. Ephesians 2:10 which states, "You are God's workmanship who has been created to do good works that God has prepared in advance." The power of this principle is both profound and amazing. This verse reminds the Christian business leader that they have been formed with a purpose. In fact, not only have they been formed with a purpose, every person on their team has been formed with a purpose. When a company finds the gifts and passions of their people and discern how to release those passions then higher productivity is enjoyed by the person and the company. Passionate people are reliable people. The wisdom of others can be powerful. Every great leader in the Bible had at least one advisor. However, many business leaders try to do things all on their own. In fact, it is often said that it is lonely at the top. It is only lonely at the top if you are trying to lead alone. Steward leaders believe in the power of others.

When your people get better your organization gets better.


Principle #11 - Do Things Today That Will Impact Today and Tomorrow

Invest wisely. Don't forget to invest in yourself. Make the right investments to help the business to grow. Invest in your people. Invest to grow your commitment and your passion.

A principle that has shaped many businesses and business leaders is Matthew 6:21. Matthew states that "Where your treasure is, there is where your heart will be also." Investment is another term for treasure. Leaders are called to lead with passion or all of their heart. Therefore a leader must make investments wisely. Leaders in businesses are called upon to make many investments. A leader must make use of the resources of the company to make the right investments in the business, people, and infrastructure. When businesses are invested in wisely, the business will grow. Good investments set the direction and the path of a business to ensure its growth and development. When a business is neglected, it is doomed to shrink and die. 

When businesses are invested in wisely, the business will grow.

 

 

Principle #12 - Work To Well Done

Excellent work is worthy work. Do everything for a bigger purpose and a nobler cause. Innovate. Always improve and strive to make products and service better. Always Upgrade and Improve. Think long term. Think eternally. Show Your Value Through Products that are of High Quality.

Building a business on Biblical principles requires a change of perspective. One essential attitude that is essential for Christian leaders is to practice excellence at all times and in all situations. The apostle Paul wrote these critical words in Colossians 3:23,24. He said "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving." Paul was reminding Christian leaders of the higher call that is their lives. Christians are not called to do work that is average, but rather Christians are called to do all of their work with excellence in a way that honors God. When you work towards excellence in everything you are on your way to hearing the "well done" from your employees, your customers, and your God.

Excellent Work Is Eternal Work.


Friday, 4 November 2022

Gambling in Africa





Electronic gaming, with the term Electronic gaming can be described that process within which two or more people gather online to change stakes. Such action involves the probability of serious financial loss or profit. One of the primary issues of gambling is amount of wealth. That may cause to lose ones ’ savings, family, or property etc. Some people turn into addicted and they will not stop believing that within the next turn will take their money back. Thus, consuming a lot of money one can spend considerable time in line, ignoring existing responsibilities with all the other ensuing effects of this addiction. It is seen that even the regular attendance in gaming environments where there is no use of actual wealth, will have addiction. This ease of access to on-line gaming sites increases the dangers of participation of young adults in such activities.

Certainly, you may also have a play problem without being completely out of control. Trouble gambling is any gambling activity that interrupts your life. If you’re preoccupied with play, spending increasingly time and money on it, chasing failures, or play despite severe effects in your time, you get a gambling problem. The gambling addiction or issue is frequently associated with different activity or mood disorders. Some problem gamblers also endure with drug abuse topics, unmanaged ADHD, difficulty, depression, anxiety, or bipolar disorder. To overcome the gambling issues, you’ll also want to address these and any other fundamental reasons , too.

Wanda Goldwag, chairman of the self-regulatory body Senet Group, which encourages responsible play measures, accepted that gambling has become a serious issue for a number of people. Nevertheless, she contends that it’s misleading to say gambling is out of power since the large majority of people are even able to experience this strange flutter without producing a problem. (Wilmers, M., Dec. 2015)

Here in Nigeria, Gambling is really taking a toll as new gambling companies come every year with more than 100 million dollars in revenue. The main reason why gambling is so popular among young people today and especially among teenagers is because they can easily get away with it.

Thursday, 8 September 2022

ASSUMPTIONS DESTROYS


Ever seen couples so madly in love with each other, in short The Perfect examples to follow and then suddenly you hear a separation happened?

Our system of thoughts, response, perception, interpretation and conviction makes up our belief system but is also influenced by our background, culture and past experiences. This is the origin of ASSUMPTION.

She saw the beautiful secretary come out of the office, she walks in and meets her husband zipping up and all sweaty. She puts two and two and assumes her husband is cheating.

He comes in, meets his wife smiling at he phone, he drags the phone and reads an SMS stating this "my darling, it's been a while. I really had fun today. Hope we could see each other more". He picks offence and accuses her.
She walks in and meets a condom on her son's bed. She is furious and begins to throw a tantrum.
So many examples of the dangers of Assumptions and Presuppositions. Let's revisit each scenario;

1) Her husband was in intense spiritual warfare. Praying for his home and unborn children. His secretary walks in and meets him praying and then turned to leave. As soon as she went out, he ends his prayers and discovers his zippers were worn out and attempts fixing it, wife enters!

2) Wife went on official assignment. Stumbled into her cousin at the carpark. She hurriedly concluded official matters and went to the cinema with him. She got home planning to gist her husband of the sudden encounters with her big bro when his text message came in. She smiled, reliving the memories of their outing... Husband walks in!

3) Son always wondered why mommy says premarital sex is bad. Friends give him condom to explore. He brings it home to show mommy for further discussion. Mommy sees it before he explains and panics that her son had not been paying attention all these while and had been sleeping around whereas son is still a virgin.

Common errors in those stories were Assumptions based on a previously innate mindset. The major hindrance to growth is presupposition that grows into assumption.

As a person, constantly purge yourself with the Word so that it becomes the mirror through which you see yourself.

NB: Many times our presumptions are stemmed from our ideologies that have become a stronghold. Never come into His Presence with assumptions. David prayed that God should deliver him from presumptuous sins. If David could pray that, then we need to watch it.

I pray the Almighty make our hearts malleable and teachable fit for His use in Jesus name.

Monday, 23 August 2021

UPDATED LIST OF BEST HMO FOR ORGANIZATIONS AND FAMILIES IN NIGERIA

This is an updated list of the best HMO's in Nigeria as at August 2021

1. Mediplan Healthcare Limited

This company was incorporated in 2000. It has very notable clients which include the Federal Ministries, Total, GTB, States parastatals amongst many others. They are a foremost NATIONAL Health Maintenance Organisation (HMO), Incorporated since May, 2000. And one of the first 8 HMOs accredited by NHIS (HMO 05) in 2005. 

MEDIPLAN advantages include her IT Driven Operations, Superior and Excellent Customer Service - attested to by her clients and a 24hrs call-centre unitEnrollee satisfaction via established feedback control mechanism, our Spread over the country; no matter where you are located in Nigeria they will have your staff covered. They render speedy responsiveness to  clients’ needs, which is their strength. They also have arrangements that cater for your staff outside the country. 



2. Hygeia HMO Limited

This organization was established 1986. It’s one of top health insurance companies in Nigeria. According to the National Health Insurance Scheme, this company was licensed in 2005. It has various health insurance plans which are quite affordable for a lot of people: Individual plan; Small Families plan; Large Families plan; Medical Evacuations plan; Senior Citizens plan. This organization also provides health insurance plans for small-scale businesses and large companies.

3. Total Health Trust Limited

This is the largest health insurance organization in Nigeria. It has over 300,000 members. This company was established in 1998. Since then, it has grown to become one of the largest players on the market. Total Health gives you access to over 500 private clinics. The main office building is located in Lagos. It has eleven regional offices across the country. This organization is backed by the Liberty Group of South Africa.

4. Integrated Healthcare Limited

It is also one of the health insurance companies top 10 Nigeria. This company offers an IT approach to medical care. Integrated Healthcare Limited was established in 2000. The head office of the company is located in Garki. One of the main features of the company is the 24-hour call center which can be reached by any patient.

5. AIICO Multi-Shield Nigeria Limited

This company was registered as an HMO in Nigeria in 1997. It was the first company registered according to the National Health Insurance Scheme. It offers a number of health insurance plans including: Evacuation plan; Magnum; Super-Executive; Executive; Standard. The customer service of the company is available for clients 24/7.

6. Princeton Health Limited

It was established in 1999. One of the advantages of its healthcare plans is the American Management Healthcare model. The leader of this organization is prince Olagoke Oladinni. The main services offered by the company include: Annual physical check; Specialist consultation; Emergency care; Primary care consultation; Hospital registration. Princeton also offers National Health Insurance and pre-paid schemes.

7. Defence Health Maintenance Ltd

This organization is owned by the Nigerian Armed Forces and Ministry of Defence. It has over 20 branches in the country. It provides healthcare service in the military and civilian sectors.

8. Healthcare Security Limited

If you are looking for one of the best health security organizations in the country, you should take a look at Healthcare Security. This company provides unique healthcare plans. Also, they are affordable for the majority of the population.

9. Clearline international Limited

It’s one of the most popular insurance companies in Nigeria. It has more than 2000 partner hospitals. The Healthcare plans are affordable for a lot of Nigerians.

10. Premium Health Limited

The customer base of this company is estimated over 250,000. It’s one of the most capitalized HMO in Nigeria. Just visit their website for more details www.premiumhealthltd.com.

In Conclusion,

Nigeria private healthcare sector offers the best quality services to its citizens. Just visit one of the above-mentioned companies to learn more! Stay healthy and secured by using the health insurance companies in Nigeria!

Tuesday, 3 November 2020

GAMBLING EFFECTS

Gambling Addiction and Problem Gambling

Are you or a loved one dealing with a gambling problem? Explore the warning signs and symptoms and learn how to stop.

Profile view of woman smiling as she stares at slot machine, her hand on the lever, illuminated by the machine's pink light

What is gambling addiction and problem gambling?

Gambling problems can happen to anyone from any walk of life. Your gambling goes from a fun, harmless diversion to an unhealthy obsession with serious consequences. Whether you bet on sports, scratch cards, roulette, poker, or slots—in a casino, at the track, or online—a gambling problem can strain your relationships, interfere with work, and lead to financial disaster. You may even do things you never thought you would, like running up huge debts or even stealing money to gamble.

Gambling addiction—also known as pathological gambling, compulsive gambling or gambling disorder—is an impulse-control disorder. If you’re a compulsive gambler, you can’t control the impulse to gamble, even when it has negative consequences for you or your loved ones. You’ll gamble whether you’re up or down, broke or flush, and you’ll keep gambling regardless of the consequences—even when you know that the odds are against you or you can’t afford to lose.

Of course, you can also have a gambling problem without being totally out of control. Problem gambling is any gambling behavior that disrupts your life. If you’re preoccupied with gambling, spending more and more time and money on it, chasing losses, or gambling despite serious consequences in your life, you have a gambling problem.

A gambling addiction or problem is often associated with other behavior or mood disorders. Many problem gamblers also suffer with substance abuse issues, unmanaged ADHD, stress, depression, anxiety, or bipolar disorder. To overcome your gambling problems, you’ll also need to address these and any other underlying causes as well.

Although it may feel like you’re powerless to stop gambling, there are plenty of things you can do to overcome the problem, repair your relationships and finances, and finally regain control of your life.
The first step is to separate the myths from the facts about gambling problems:

Myths and Facts about Gambling Problems

Myth: You have to gamble every day to be a problem gambler.

Fact: A problem gambler may gamble frequently or infrequently. Gambling is a problem if it causes problems.

Myth: Problem gambling is not really a problem if the gambler can afford it.

Fact: Problems caused by excessive gambling are not just financial. Too much time spent on gambling can also lead to relationship and legal problems, job loss, mental health problems including depression and anxiety, and even suicide.

Myth: Having a gambling problem is just a case of being weak-willed, irresponsible, or unintelligent.

Fact: Gambling problems affect people of all levels of intelligence and all backgrounds. Previously responsible and strong-willed people are just as likely to develop a gambling problem as anyone else.

Myth: Partners of problem gamblers often drive their loved ones to gamble.

Fact: Problem gamblers often try to rationalize their behavior. Blaming others is one way to avoid taking responsibility for their actions, including what is needed to overcome the problem.

Myth: If a problem gambler builds up a debt, you should help them take care of it.

Fact: Quick fix solutions may appear to be the right thing to do. However, bailing the gambler out of debt may actually make matters worse by enabling their gambling problems to continue.

Gambling addiction signs and symptoms

Gambling addiction is sometimes referred to as a “hidden illness” because there are no obvious physical signs or symptoms like there are in drug or alcohol addiction. Problem gamblers also typically deny or minimize the problem—even to themselves. However, you may have a gambling problem if you:

Feel the need to be secretive about your gambling. You might gamble in secret or lie about how much you gamble, feeling others won’t understand or that you will surprise them with a big win.

Have trouble controlling your gambling. Once you start gambling, can you walk away? Or are you compelled to gamble until you’ve spent your last dollar, upping your bets in a bid to win lost money back?

Gamble even when you don’t have the money. You may gamble until you’ve spent your last dollar, and then move on to money you don’t have—money to pay bills, credit cards, or things for your children. You may feel pushed to borrow, sell, or even steal things for gambling money.

Have family and friends worried about you. Denial keeps problem gambling going. If friends and family are worried, listen to them carefully. It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help. Many older gamblers are reluctant to reach out to their adult children if they’ve gambled away their inheritance, but it’s never too late to make changes for the better.

Self-help for gambling problems

The biggest step to overcoming a gambling addiction is realizing that you have a problem. It takes tremendous strength and courage to own up to this, especially if you have lost a lot of money and strained or broken relationships along the way. Don’t despair, and don’t try to go it alone. Many others have been in your shoes and have been able to break the habit and rebuild their lives. You can, too.

Learn to relieve unpleasant feelings in healthier ways. Do you gamble when you’re lonely or bored? Or after a stressful day at work or following an argument with your spouse? Gambling may be a way to self-soothe unpleasant emotions, unwind, or socialize. But there are healthier and more effective ways of managing your moods and relieving boredom, such as exercising, spending time with friends who don’t gamble, taking up new hobbies, or practicing relaxation techniques.

Strengthen your support network. It’s tough to battle any addiction without support, so reach out to friends and family. If your support network is limited, there are ways to make new friends without relying on visiting casinos or gambling online. Try reaching out to colleagues at work, joining a sports team or book club, enrolling in an education class, or volunteering for a good cause.

Join a peer support group. Gamblers Anonymous, for example, is a 12-step recovery program patterned after Alcoholics Anonymous. A key part of the program is finding a sponsor, a former gambler who has experience remaining free from addiction and can provide you invaluable guidance and support.

Seek help for underlying mood disorders. Depressionstresssubstance abuse, or anxiety can both trigger gambling problems and be made worse by compulsive gambling. Even when gambling is no longer a part of your life, these problems will still remain, so it’s important to address them.

How to stop gambling for good

For many problem gamblers, it’s not quitting gambling that’s the biggest challenge, but rather staying in recovery—making a permanent commitment to stay away from gambling. The Internet has made gambling far more accessible and, therefore, harder for recovering addicts to avoid relapse. Online casinos and bookmakers are open all day, every day for anyone with a smartphone or access to a computer. But maintaining recovery from gambling addiction or problem gambling is still possible if you surround yourself with people to whom you’re accountable, avoid tempting environments and websites, give up control of your finances (at least at first), and find healthier activities to replace gambling in your life.

Making healthier choices

One way to stop gambling is to remove the elements necessary for gambling to occur in your life and replace them with healthier choices. The four elements needed for gambling to continue are:

A decision: For gambling to happen, you need to make the decision to gamble. If you have an urge: stop what you are doing and call someone, think about the consequences to your actions, tell yourself to stop thinking about gambling, and find something else to do immediately.

Money: Gambling cannot occur without money. Get rid of your credit cards, let someone else be in charge of your money, have the bank make automatic payments for you, close online betting accounts, and keep only a limited amount of cash on you.

Time: Even online gambling cannot occur if you don’t have the time. Schedule enjoyable recreational time for yourself that has nothing to do with gambling. If you’re gambling on your smartphone, find other ways to fill the quiet moments during your day.

A game: Without a game or activity to bet on there is no opportunity to gamble. Don’t put yourself in tempting environments. Tell gambling establishments you frequent that you have a gambling problem and ask them to restrict you from entering. Remove gambling apps and block gambling sites on your smartphone and computer.

Finding alternatives to gambling

Maintaining recovery from gambling addiction depends a lot on finding alternative behaviors you can substitute for gambling. Some examples include:

Reason for gamblingSample substitute behaviors
To provide excitement, get a rush of adrenalineSport or a challenging hobby, such as mountain biking, rock climbing, or Go Kart racing
To be more social, overcome shyness or isolationCounseling, enroll in a public speaking class, join a social group, connect with family and friends, volunteer, find new friends
To numb unpleasant feelings, not think about problemsTry therapy or use HelpGuide’s free Emotional Intelligence toolkit
Boredom or lonelinessFind something you’re passionate about such as art, music, sports, or books and then find others with the same interests
To relax after a stressful dayAs little as 15 minutes of daily exercise can relieve stress. Or deep breathing, meditation, or massage
To solve money problemsThe odds are always stacked against you so it’s far better to seek help with debts from a credit counselor

Dealing with gambling cravings

Feeling the urge to gamble is normal, but as you build healthier choices and a strong support network, resisting cravings will become easier. When a gambling craving strikes:

Avoid isolation. Call a trusted family member, meet a friend for coffee, or go to a Gamblers Anonymous meeting.

Postpone gambling. Tell yourself that you’ll wait 5 minutes, fifteen minutes, or an hour. As you wait, the urge to gamble may pass or become weak enough to resist.

Visualize what will happen if you give in to the urge to gamble. Think about how you’ll feel after all your money is gone and you’ve disappointed yourself and your family again.

Distract yourself with another activity, such as going to the gym, watching a movie, or practicing a relaxation exercise for gambling cravings.

Coping with lapses

If you aren’t able to resist the gambling craving, don’t be too hard on yourself or use it as an excuse to give up. Overcoming a gambling addiction is a tough process. You may slip from time to time; the important thing is to learn from your mistakes and continue working towards recovery.

Gambling addiction treatment

Overcoming a gambling problem is never easy and seeking professional treatment doesn’t mean that you’re weak in some way or can’t handle your problems. But it’s important to remember that every gambler is unique so you need a recovery program tailored specifically to your needs and situation. Talk to your doctor or mental health professional about different treatment options, including:

Inpatient or residential treatment and rehab programs. These are aimed at those with severe gambling addiction who are unable to avoid gambling without round-the-clock support.

Treatment for underlying conditions contributing to your compulsive gambling, including substance abuse or mental health problems such as depression, anxiety, OCD, or ADHD. This could include therapy, medication, and lifestyle changes. Problem gambling can sometimes be a symptom of bipolar disorder, so your doctor or therapist may need to rule this out before making a diagnosis.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy. CBT for gambling addiction focuses on changing unhealthy gambling behaviors and thoughts, such as rationalizations and false beliefs. It can also teach you how to fight gambling urges and solve financial, work, and relationship problems caused by problem gambling. Therapy can provide you with the tools for coping with your addiction that will last a lifetime.

Family therapy and marriage, career, and credit counseling. These can help you work through the specific issues that have been created by your problem gambling and lay the foundation for repairing your relationships and finances.

How to help someone stop gambling

If your loved one has a gambling problem, you likely have many conflicting emotions. You may have spent a lot of time and energy trying to keep your loved one from gambling or having to cover for them. At the same time, you might be furious at your loved one for gambling again and tired of trying to keep up the charade. Your loved one may have borrowed or even stolen money with no way to pay it back. They may have sold family possessions or run up huge debts on joint credit cards.

While compulsive and problem gamblers need the support of their family and friends to help them in their struggle to stop gambling, the decision to quit has to be theirs. As much as you may want to, and as hard as it is seeing the effects, you cannot make someone stop gambling. However, you can encourage them to seek help, support them in their efforts, protect yourself, and take any talk of suicide seriously.

Preventing suicide in problem gamblers

When faced with the consequences of their actions, problem gamblers can suffer a crushing drop in self-esteem. This is one reason why there is a high rate of suicide among compulsive gamblers. If you suspect your loved one is feeling suicidal, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the U.S. at 1-800-273-8255 or visit Befrienders Worldwide to find a suicide helpline in your country.

Four tips for family members:

  1. Start by helping yourself. You have a right to protect yourself emotionally and financially. Don’t blame yourself for the gambler’s problems or let his or her addiction dominate your life. Ignoring your own needs can be a recipe for burnout.
  2. Don’t go it alone. It can feel so overwhelming coping with a loved one’s gambling addiction that it may seem easier to rationalize their requests “this one last time.” Or you might feel ashamed, feeling like you are the only one who has problems like this. Reaching out for support will make you realize that many families have struggled with this problem.
  3. Set boundaries in managing money. To ensure the gambler stays accountable and to prevent relapse, consider taking over the family finances. However, this does not mean you are responsible for micromanaging the problem gambler’s impulses to gamble. Your first responsibilities are to ensure that your own finances and credit are not at risk.
  4. Consider how you will handle requests for money. Problem gamblers often become very good at asking for money, either directly or indirectly. They may use pleading, manipulation, or even threats to get it. It takes practice to ensure you are not enabling your loved one’s gambling addiction.
Do’s and Don’ts for Partners of Problem Gamblers
Do…
  • Talk to your partner about their problem gambling and its consequences when you’re calm and not stressed or angry.
  • Look for support. Self-help groups for families of problem gamblers, such as Gam-Anon, for example, can introduce you to people who’ve faced the same obstacles.
  • Explain to your partner that you’re seeking help because of how their gambling affects you and the family.
  • Talk to your children about your partner’s problem gambling.
  • Take over management of your family finances, carefully monitoring bank and credit card statements.
  • Encourage and support your loved one during treatment of their gambling problem, even though it may be a long process peppered with setbacks.
Don’t…
  • Lose your temper, preach, lecture, or issue threats and ultimatums that you’re unable to follow through on.
  • Overlook your partner’s positive qualities.
  • Prevent your partner from participating in family life and activities.
  • Expect your partner’s recovery from problem gambling to be smooth or easy. Even when their gambling stops, other underlying problems may surface.
  • Bail your partner out of debt or enable their gambling in any way.
  • Cover-up or deny your partner’s problem to yourself or others.

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